MIAMI, Florida. If you are getting divorced in the New Year, you might be overwhelmed with major life changes. Thinking about New Year’s resolutions might be the last thing in your mind, but by making some key resolutions for the New Year, some of the big changes to come can become a positive force in your life. In fact, resolutions that focus on mental health above physical health have been shown to be healthier and result in longer-lasting benefits. So, what are some New Year’s resolutions for the divorcing?
- Grow your social circle. Many married people hang out with married people. If you are getting divorced, you might find yourself surrounded by happily married friends. Pop Sugar reports that some formerly married individuals might find themselves no longer getting invitations from “couple friends.” Divorce is a good time to step outside yourself. Join a new group, take a new class, get a dog and meet people at the dog park. Your old friends may want to do everything they can to help, and it is important to reach out to loved ones during divorce, but some friends might not be able to handle the changes in your life. Don’t despair. Branch out.
- Let yourself say ‘no.’ According to the Huffington Post, some individuals leave a marriage realizing they were people-pleasers. Now that you are no longer in a marriage, you can use this time to practice setting healthy boundaries. Say ‘no’ to things you don’t want to do. It can also help to take some time to identify your values.
- Identify your values. While the idea of “values” sounds vague, identifying your values is key to making sound decisions that will make you happy going forward. Take the time to decide what you want in your life going forward. Do you want to step into a new career? Have you always wanted to move to a particular city? Take some time to consider what you want in your friendships, relationships, jobs, and life.
- Try something new. Take a vacation to a place you’ve never been before. Try out a new hobby. Take a new class. You might discover new things about yourself. Stepping outside yourself will also give you room to grow.
While these are just a few things to help you start your new year right, you may be wondering how you can best keep these resolutions. After all, we all know by early February that gym membership too often goes unused. According to the New York Times, authentic resolutions are those most often kept. So, rather than deciding to go back to the gym, look inward instead. A resolution to be more honest, generous, moral, loyal, grateful, and compassionate, will connect us more deeply to those around us.
Finally, if you are getting divorced in the new year, it is important to seek help. Divorce can be a complex process and it can be tough to go it alone. Contact the divorce lawyer at Sandy Becher, P.A. in Miami, Florida today. Or visit us at https://sandybecher.com/ to learn more.