Divorce is never easy, and even the most amicable separations can involve disputes over asset division or child custody. If your marriage ended on bad terms and you have children, it might be impossible to imagine co-parenting with your ex; however, it is important to remember that your children’s well-being has priority over any qualms you have about your former spouse.
If you are taking a mature approach to co-parenting but you find out that your ex is badmouthing you in front of the kids, it is critical that you do not overreact. Instigating an argument will not help the situation, and it may give your ex ammunition if you are in the middle of a custody battle.
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Here are four tips to keep in mind if your ex is criticizing you in front of your children:
- Remain Calm
If your children ask you about something your ex said, try to remain calm. Divorce is a confusing time for kids, and they will be looking to both you and your ex for cues on how they should react to certain situations.
If you react to the accusations with anger or defensiveness, your children will take that to mean your ex’s comments are a big deal; however, if you brush them off in a calm, rational manner, your children will not put any stock into them. Parents.com encourages readers to take the high road when confronted with this scenario.
- Validate Your Children’s Concerns
If your children come to you with questions regarding something your ex said, do not tell them they must have misunderstood. Validate their concerns but provide your own take on the situation, and make sure you do so in a way that they will understand.
- Transition the Conversation to Something Positive
Kids should not have to worry about adult problems, but divorce often forces them to do just that. If your children come to you seeking answers, remind them that you are the parent, and you will handle the situation. You can then put a positive spin on the scenario by encouraging them to focus on being kids and bringing up a few fun activities you have planned for the near future.
- Talk to Your Ex
If you can confront your ex about the accusations in a calm manner, you should do so. If you think you are going to get defensive or angry, then avoid bringing up the specifics. Simply remind your ex that even though you are divorced, you need to remain a team in the eyes of your children and in order to co-parent effectively, neither of you should badmouth the other.
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